If you’re ejaculating and climaxing sooner than you and your partner would like, sex may not be satisfying for either of you. It’s a problem called premature ejaculation (PE). Though there is no set time that defines what is a ‘normal time’ of ejaculation, coming within a minute can be safely classified as PE.
People variously describe it as ‘I am coming too soon’, ‘early ejaculation’, ‘semen/liquid coming out immediately’, ‘quick ejaculation’, ‘less stamina’, ‘jaldi gir padta hai’, etc.
Premature ejaculation can cause embarrassment or even frustration, as:
- The male loses erection and can no longer continue sex.
- Both partners find that they do not have enough time to enjoy sex.
- PE leaves the female partner aroused and unsatisfied.
This may lead to frustration for both, and can potentially hurt the relationship, affect the sexual response cycle of the woman, and negatively impact the male’s self-esteem.
PE is very commonly experienced by young men, and will slowly resolve on its own with sexual experience and age. Almost 40% of men have experienced PE at one time or another in their lives. PE is common when sexual partners are new or when it has been several days since you have last ejaculated.
The exact causes of PE are not yet established. Many factors are attributed to PE, ranging from biological (low serotonin levels) to psychological causes and situational factors.
1. Biological causes: Serotonin is a natural substance made by the nerves. An increase in serotonin levels in the brain helps men prolong the time taken to ejaculate, whereas low levels of this substance can lead to PE.
2. Psychological factors:
- Depression
- Guilt
- Generalized Anxiety Disorder
- Stress
- Performance anxiety
- Unrealistic expectations
- Low self-esteem
- Relationship problems
3. Masturbation?
Contrary to popular belief, masturbation per se does not cause PE. But the way one masturbates might! For example, if one has been ejaculating rapidly during masturbation, it is likely that rapid ejaculation will continue during sexual intercourse too. On the contrary, if one has learned to delay ejaculation and stay longer during masturbation, the same habit can be adopted in sexual intercourse as well.
It comes as a relief to know that this most common male sexual problem has a high success rate with treatment programs. PE need not be lifelong and, with proper guidance, it can be overcome.
Overcoming Premature Ejaculation and staying longer in sex is possible in two ways:
- Through medical treatment
- Through natural methods
The medical treatment consists of oral medication using safe ayurvedic/herbal drugs and/or topical numbing creams for external application. They help improve ejaculatory latency (the time it takes to ejaculate) and provide quick relief from the problem, restoring satisfaction to both partners. However, the effect of medication is not permanent.
That is where natural methods come into the picture.
In natural methods of ejaculatory control, clients learn to understand how premature ejaculation happens and what actions trigger it. Specific techniques are then taught to help gain control over ejaculation. Some popular techniques include the stop-start technique, the squeeze technique, and the Abhisarika technique. These methods are easy to learn but require sustained effort and practice. Once mastered, they offer long-term, virtually lifelong benefits.
The full program typically lasts 6 to 8 weeks, depending on the pace of learning and mastering the techniques. Guidance is provided as needed throughout this period to help build consistent control.
For couples who are experiencing relationship distress, counseling and therapy for relationship issues should precede PE treatment. Additionally, some men with PE also experience erectile dysfunction (ED). For these individuals, ED is addressed first, followed by PE treatment.
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